Reasons You Don’t Like People (That Are Actually Very Common)

“Do you hate people?” “I don’t hate them… I just feel better when they’re not around.” – Charles Bukowski, Barfly

Does this quote resonate with you?

Do you find it difficult to like a lot of people?

If you’ve ever asked yourself why, you might be able to discover the answers in any of the following explanations:

The experiences you have had with people so far in life have tarnished your world view

Our experiences shape our views, so if you had bad treatment as a child or during another time in your life, you may start to assume that this is the norm for everyone.It’s possible that you were bullied at school or that your parents are toxic and don’t treat you nicely.

Alternatively, perhaps you went through a tragic occurrence in your life where someone hurt you emotionally or physically. You might have marked humanity with a black mark as a result of these kinds of occurrences. Because you have dealt with extremely unlikable people in the past, you can automatically default to disliking people.

You want to avoid the possibility of getting hurt again

You don’t let them in if you don’t like them. Additionally, the likelihood that they will be able to harm you is greatly reduced if you refuse to let them in. It’s likely that you have trouble trusting others if you can relate to the prior statement.It will be difficult to get to know someone without trust, and how can you expect to like them if you can’t even begin to know them?You build up barriers with other people because you don’t want to be hurt.

You see people as shallow

Perhaps you are not a materialistic person who yearns for fame or fortune. However, you observe other individuals purchasing ostentatious cars, snapping selfies for Facebook, Instagram, or some other social media platform, and dressing in the same manner as them. You find everyone to be so conceited. You feel disgust for them since they are so obsessed with owning the newest fashion or device. You just can’t connect with any of it.

You see people as self-absorbed and selfish

Me, myself, me! It seems like everyone is only thinking about themselves. Social encounters are nothing more than chances for people to touch each other’s egos since conversational narcissism is rampant. You notice the larger issues facing society and communities and you want to make a difference, but you feel like you’re the only one in a sea of people who don’t seem to give a damn if society is collapsing around them.

You equate social media profiles with how people really are

You think that people who post self-portraits and status updates that demand attention are actually like that in real life. You don’t ponder the identity of the subject of the pictures or what intriguing things they might be considering or doing. You also don’t take into account the possible difficulties they might be facing. You are unaware that social media is merely the appearance of reality. It keeps a lot more depth hidden.

You expect people to be perfect

Humans are complex beings with both positive and negative traits. However, no matter how many positive traits someone may possess, if you focus only on their shortcomings, they quickly lose your ability to like them. As was mentioned in point #2, you probably hold people at a distance in order to avoid getting wounded because you judge them severely.

You have outgrown your friendships

Although you do have friends, you don’t really like any of them.

This is frequently the result of you being “old before your time” and having matured more quickly than they have.You become aloof from them as a result, finding their meaningless banter about drinking or reality TV to be tedious. And you can’t resist believing that, except for you, everyone else must be just like this.

You don’t like yourself much either

We frequently project emotions onto the outside world that are really reflections of our interior emotions. Though that’s unlikely to be the case for everyone, if you genuinely feel that you don’t like others, it might be because you don’t think highly of yourself. You contend that nobody is truly deserving of your affection, least of all yourself, in order to cope with these deep-seated sentiments of self-loathing.

You tend to find faults in other people because you are fixated on your own shortcomings. Furthermore, you find it difficult to tolerate others who are confident in themselves. You find it quite annoying that they seem arrogant and self-righteous to you.