When parents turn into bullies
“Avoid being the first person to bully your child.” When I read this a long time ago, I was struck by how trite it was. However, it persisted in my thoughts and lingered with me. I find it interesting that this remark is often accurate, having spent a considerable amount of time observing the bond between a kid and parent.
Despite having the best of intentions, parents frequently end up being the largest barrier to their child’s development. Do intentions, however, really matter? What happens if there are noble intentions paving the way to hell?
Many parents leave their children with psychological scars that endure a lifetime because they are ill-prepared to navigate the emotional challenges of motherhood. Over the course of their life, their children struggle to build meaningful connections with others and suffer from poor self-esteem.
Children who witness emotional instability in their parents are more likely to experience anxiety, depression, behavioural problems, and what are colloquially referred to as “daddy/mommy issues.”
By bullying their kids, they attempt to “fix” their flaws by targeting their tender spots. They are more concerned with speaking than with listening. Not only do they talk, but they do it in an aggressively frightening way. Does this have any advantageous effects? Without a doubt.
They do, however, feel a brief sense of relaxation, as though they had fulfilled a duty to release their tension for a worthwhile purpose. However, the youngster suffers more in the process. The result of parents not feeling an emotional connection to their children is a lack of comprehension of a developing youngster.
In addition to being emotionally distant from their kids, they also don’t know what’s wrong with them. They refuse to acknowledge that they must alter their way of life. Put differently, they exhibit cognitive rigidity. Their inflexible behavior in maintaining their way of life forces them to act inflexibly toward their kids as well, which makes them less compassionate. It is often handed down through the generations. A person is more prone to perpetuate the cycle if they did not receive enough affection from their parents as children.
Their stringent expectations of their children stem from their inflexibility. And therein is the ideal formula for ruining a youngster. People are unique beings with diverse goals in life. When a kid is forced to do things in order to satisfy their unmet desires, it just serves to reinforce the child’s perception of themselves as failures who fall short of their parents’ expectations.
They continue to expend energy attempting to win over their parents, and when they don’t see any progress, they begin to doubt their own talents. When such youngsters grow up, an inferiority concept envelops them and stays anchored in their mental processes until they sever it by diligently improving themselves. However, not many are able to do so. Early impressions have a lasting impression on people that they remember for the rest of their lives.
It seems sense that raising better beings is aided by excellent parenting. But how precisely should that be done? Making friends with the kids is the simplest and most practical approach to maintain that enthusiasm as they get older. Develop flexibility. Pay attention to them. Recognize them. Develop alongside them. That’s the fundamentals of parenting. It appears straightforward, but in reality, it’s not.
Parents that are cognitively rigid are resistant to behavioral changes and are hesitant to embrace improved parenting techniques in response to their children’s changing demands as they mature. Furthermore, many lack the motivation to improve themselves and prioritize resolving their issues. Why should knowledge on one of the most significant parts of life end there, after all?
Learning how to be a parent is a difficult task. and lost knowledge. and acquired new knowledge. It’s one of those things that, regrettably, our culture as a whole ignores because we think it’s just a straightforward characteristic that runs in families. An awful parenting philosophy that says parents should bring a child into the world before they are ready to parent is something that is being passed down through the centuries. As a result, when a kid is born, parents frequently exhibit reluctance to learn how to use their time and resources in a way that would best support the child.
There is a huge difference between kids who grow up with parents who truly love and care for them and kids who grow up with parents who live under the same roof but are foreign to them their entire lives.
One must be willing to change for the better and possess a constant state of learning and self-reflection. In actuality, none of these tasks are simple. It is impossible to practice poor parenting and expect positive outcomes. However, one must first comprehend what is good and what is evil. Healthy parent-child relationships are best when both parties recognize the behavioral changes that need to be made.
Youngsters imitate the actions of those they see in adults, particularly their parents. They are unable to incorporate emotional intelligence, empathy, and flexibility into their own life when they do not perceive these qualities in them.
Parents must begin better parenting realistically and continue to work on themselves in order to grow children. Only good intentions are left without it. Do they really matter, though?
I am a dedicated student currently in my seventh semester, pursuing a degree in International Relations. Alongside my academic pursuits, I am actively engaged in the professional field as a content writer at the Rangeinn website.
